First, let us acknowledge that we have important, essential duties to one another as fellow Christians. We are to help, encourage, edify, strengthen, support, and care for one another. This includes both physical necessities and spiritual imperatives. No one denies these realities.
However, it seems that some Christians are looking to be on the receiving end of these services – but apparently feel little need to give back to their brothers and sisters in Christ. They are quick to criticize if they think they have been neglected, but they do little to reach out to others. It appears that some even have a sort of ‘chip on their shoulder’ which can be easily knocked off if some constant ‘stroking and petting’ is not directed their way. And, the fact that they have been helped numerous times in the past is not enough. If recent attention has not been paid to them, then they will let their displeasure be known.
To these folks, we would say:
1) We can always do better, and we’ll keep trying to grow in the important area of brotherly love (1 Thess. 4:10-11). We feel a true burden to help you and we want to fulfill it faithfully.
2) But, please be grateful for the help and love your brethren have shown you in the past. Gratitude is a command (Col. 3:15) and ingratitude is a sin (2 Tim. 3:2).
3) And, look for YOUR opportunities to serve others. Every Christian, regardless of their specific circumstances, can and must serve their brethren (John 13:12-17). No one can remain exclusively on the receiving end of this relationship. Jesus Himself said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35).
We cherish our special bond within the family of God. Let us all do our part to make it as good as it can be.
– by Greg Gwin